Dear Nicole,
In trying to cut costs at the beginning of wedding planning I decided I didn't need to give favors to my guests. Is this rude or will anyone even notice?
Sincerly,
Kelly
Hi Kelly,
This question comes up a lot--so thanks for asking. And I'm going to give my usual answer which is: no, it's not rude to go sans favors. But I'm sure there are people who would disagree with me. I am all for creating the wedding you want and can afford. Period. I am not a believer in following the traditional rules of ettiquette if they do not suit you and your personality. Now, if you would prefer to give out favors, but just don't have the money, well, you have options. There are many creative things you can do to say "thanks for coming."
- Centerpieces/Decorations that double as favors--How about using small, cute potted plants for flowers as centerpieces and then allowing guests to take them home. If you are already paying for centerpieces you wont be spending any more money (possibly less if you DIY). Plus, your guests are doing some of the clean up for you!
- Email your guests a digital postcard after the wedding --Choose one of your favorite photos from the wedding and turn it into a digital postcard. You can email it to all your guests and say "Thanks for coming to the wedding!" or whatever. This site allows you to upload your photos and make a digital postcard for free!
- Make a (very) small donation in each guests name--Make a $1 donation in the name of each guest to a charity of your choice. This is the cheapest favor you'll find, but one that will make the most difference. Place a small card on each guests plate stating that a donation has been made in their name as a gesture of thanks for attending your big day.
Hope this helps, Kelly. But remember: if you don't want to include favors in your wedding, then don't. It's completely acceptable in my ettiquette book!
For better of worse,Nicole {Matrimonial Maven}
